There are so many ways to say “I do”. Although there are words that must be said in the vows, couples are free to be creative and include words and objects that mean something special to them and make their wedding day memorable.
Th custom of the oathing stone comes from Scotland where the marrying couple placed their hands around a stone while saying their wedding vows. I performed a ceremony recently in Kuipto forest and the couple inlcuded this ritual in their ceremony. It is deeply moving as it signifies that the voes are, in fact, set in stone.
Any stone can be used for this purpose. This couple collected a special stone from Port Noarlunga close to their home. It was carefully washed and dried and sent to a professional engraver who inscribed their initials and date on the stone which was then placed in a box until the ceremony.
The image above is from Monkey Jewels.
Many couples choose specific and very personal rituals to include in their wedding ceremony. Sometimes there are very important words that they want included, or songs, or readings that mean something special to them as a couple or to their families. There are often important cultural rituals that couples will ask to have written into the ceremony. Perhaps they have found one on the web or have seen a certain ritual performed at a wedding that has in some way resonated with them and they want that included in their own ceremony. All of this is absolutely fine – so long as we include the legal requirements in your ceremony, you can have whatever words, music, readings, rituals and dance that you would like to make sure that your wedding ceremony is the one that you want, and one that you and your family and friends will remember.
I have included some examples of rituals that couples have chosen to include in their wedding ceremony. You may have one that is not here and I would love to learn about it, and talk about how we can include in your special day.
The history of hand fasting ceremonies
In today’s civil ceremonies, couples can choose from many rituals that date back to ancient times and are rich with symbolism of love, marriage and commitment.
The hand fasting ceremony can be included in a legal marriage ceremony, provided that all the legal requirements are also included.
The hand fasting ceremony dates back to the ancient Celts and was used as a trial period in which the couple were literally tied together. This is where the expression “tying the knot” is thought to have originated. After the end of the trial period, the couple could agree to a more permanent arrangement. Continue reading